victim mentality“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” -Charles Swindoll

It’s easy to play the victim in today’s world – “They did this to me” or “Why does this always happen to me?” or “It’s not   my fault”. This mindset is self-limiting and disempowers you, and frankly leaves you feeling weak and helpless.

What would happen if you took full responsibility for everything that happens to and around you? If instead you asked questions like “What can I learn from this?” or “What can I do with this now it’s happened?” or “What’s my next step, now?” or even “How can I turn this around into something useful?”

Notice how liberating and empowering this new mindset can be. Sure, it’s okay to take a moment to express a frustration. Then get over it, move on and choose your new path forward. That’s how you create the life you want and feel more positive.

When I took responsibility, it changed my life.  Or more accurately, I changed my life, career and whole outlook.  I still have moments of weakness and indulgent self-pity – and mostly, after a very brief wallow, I get up, face forward and decide ‘What’s next?’


Try it out for yourself and let us know how you find it.